My Mother:-The Iron Lady, Best Mother, Teacher, and Friend!

Today while flipping pages of my Journal Diary, a thought struck my mind why should not talk about this person who has given me such a beautiful life, the most important person in my life and my inspiration?

I am sure that you have already guessed it, by the title of this article!

And, of course, that person is none other than My Mother! She has played a major role to become what I am today! She has given two most important things to me.

Firstly, Education, which is referred “The most powerful weapon which one can use to change the world” by Nelson Mandela.

My mother is responsible to prepare the basic foundation of it.

Secondly, Freedom! This opens the door for us to live as we wish.

It allowed me to pursue the things that I am interested in. Do things that I want to do. No bindings, No restrictions!

Though she is illiterate, I cannot say she is uneducated. She is very clever and hardworking. She has a progressive mindset, rational thinking.

Whatever opportunity she gets, she utilizes it fully. She is good at money management. Moreover, she is a visionary.

Because of such qualities, she is involved in decision-making not only by her family members but also by her employers as well at work. So, are you interested to know more about her?

Then let’s start…

My Mother, Shobha…hey wait a moment…this is not her earlier name. Her name was Sabamma…sounds a little bit South Indian. Right? Yes, you are right! She was born in Shorapur village which is part of north Karnataka, in a very poor family.

She started working on the farm when she was just age of 8 or 9. As their financial condition was not good and my grandparents were not aware of the importance of education, she was not allowed to go to school.

In villages, it’s common to get married at an early age. And my Mother also could not escape from such tradition. She was forced to get married at the age of 13–14.

After marriage, this couple moved to Maharashtra in search of a job. So, what kind of job would they expect when both of them don’t have an education?

Initially, they started with work like preparing bricks, and concrete(a mixture of sand and cement) which are used in building construction, loading and unloading bricks at the construction site, etc.

They were involved in such activity for many building constructions.

But the work at the construction of the Ujjwal Estate of Bhuvan Builders apartment became a life-changing opportunity for them, right from the naming ceremony of my mother to getting the opportunity of education to their children!

When this apartment was ready, people began to live and people living in this hired my mother as a Domestic helper and my father as a Security guard.

Before this, they had to move from one place to another in search of work. But now they got settled.

Moreover, this work was easy compared to the earlier one. In addition to this, new employers were aware of the importance of education.

They explained it to my mother and helped her to admit me and my brother to the school.

And this is how we got an opportunity to get into the school.

And subsequently, it opened the door of education for my younger sisters also.

Now this generation would be the first to get an education in our entire generation. We are so lucky, aren’t we?

Sabamma, my mother’s old name was a little bit difficult to pronounce and remember to one of the employers. So they started to call her “Shobha”. And from then onwards she was called by this name by everyone.

Shobha, the name itself reveals two more characteristics of her, Beautiful and Attractive! Her beauty lies in her simplicity and everyone gets attracted to her due to her intelligence and her way of interacting.

I always refer to my Mother as an Iron Lady. And, of course, she deserves this Title. The efforts she has taken in upbringing us are exceptional. When I was in 7th, my father undergone through nervous system surgery.

It made him less capable to do any work.

And all responsibility came over her. Since then she played the role of both, Mother as well as father.

It is not an easy task to provide quality education to 4 children and fulfill their necessities without the much support of her husband.

She knows how to do parenting. We are a total of 5 siblings. We all are given equal importance and love. She used to use her unique ways to teach us lessons.

She used to stop to talk to us if we did any mistakes as a punishment. If we tried new things or did well in something we were not left from her appreciation and encouragement.

I remember her encouragement, it may be during childhood when I touched Bicycle for the first time or during adulthood when I learned Scooty.

Her encouragement made me learn things quickly. After learning anything, she used to be happier than me and felt proud of me! And I could feel her satisfaction.

During adulthood, every child requires a good friend with whom he/she can share anything. My mother filled that vacuum also.

We all sisters used to share anything openly with her, even about our Crushes. She also used to enjoy our talks. It is quite interesting, isn’t it? Yes! She trusts us a lot!

She respects modern values like gender equality and freedom for children for their personal development. She never forced us to do anything against our wishes.

Being from a family who is financially weak and old thinking, “She easily submerged herself with the new generation and modern thoughts without leaving her roots. It’s quite difficult, but she proved “where there is will, there is a way and nothing is impossible.”

Without her, everything is incomplete for me, it may be family tours, family functions, festivals, or celebrations of our achievements.

I like to take her advice every time, no matter how big or small the decision is.

Even in our daily routine, while preparing food, I feel unsatisfied if I don’t ask her a question about the quantity of an ingredient, “Avva,ishtu saka? Idu nodu.”(“Mamma, is it enough? Look at this.”) even though I knew her answer.

I wonder how she would not get irritated with the same question daily!

Her presence makes me cheerful and energetic.

Indeed, She is an Iron Lady, the best Mother, Teacher, and Friend!